Terry Real is a multiple-bestselling author and licensed marriage and family therapist based in Boston who has been in private practice for more than 25 years. Terry is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and Chairman of Real Relational Solutions, Inc.
His work has been described by the New York Times Book Review as "a critical contribution to feminist psychology [that] brings the Men's movement a significant step forward." Robert Bly hailed his book as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”
Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men's issues and on couple's therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.
A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
Before launching his groundbreaking new work, "THE NEW RULES OF MARRIAGE: What You Need to Make Love Work" (Random House), Terry had already been a family therapist and teacher for more than twenty years. The best-selling author of "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression" (Scribner, 1997) and the straight-talking "HOW CAN I GET THROUGH TO YOU? Reconnecting Men and Women" (Scribner, 2002), Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment.
A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry founded his own center, the RELATIONAL LIFE INSTITUTE, in March of 2002. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men break through outdated notions to find true connection and satisfaction.
Terry founded the Relational Life Institute out of his extensive and empathic experience. The Institute is dedicated to helping boys and men reclaim wholeness and connection, helping parents raise healthy boys, and empowering women to be assertive in their relationships. Along with training mental health professionals, the Relational Life Institute’s workshops help women to assert themselves lovingly and men to open up and learn to be fully present.
Terry lives with his wife, family therapist, Belinda Berman, and their two sons in Newton, Massachusetts.